I'm Not That Kind Of Friend.

 

I saw a post recently that said:

“I’m not a very needy or touchy friend… I’m emotionally independent… I don’t constantly need reassurance or affection.”

And I paused.

Because… that’s me.

I’m not that friend that is always hugging, always checking up every second, or constantly saying soft things.

And somehow, because of that, people assume something.

That I won’t be romantic.

And honestly?

I get it.

I actually agree… I’m not that romantic. God help me. 😭

But here’s the thing.

The way I show up for people might not look soft on the outside, but it’s still real.

I’m not the “babying you every five minutes” type of friend.

I’m not always going to say, “Aww, are you okay?” ten times.

I’m not constantly in your space.

But when it really matters?

I’ll show up.

But when something is actually wrong, I’ll listen.

When you need help, I’ll be there.

Just don’t expect me to force things.

If something is bothering you and you don’t want to talk about it, I won’t stress you.

I might ask once.

Maybe twice.

But if you don’t want to say anything, I’ll leave it.

Not because I don’t care.

But because I don’t know how to force people to open up.

And honestly, I wouldn’t want anyone to force me either.

It’s the same with advice.

If I suggest something — especially something I know might help you — and you decide not to do it…

I’ll just leave it.

I won’t beg you.

I won’t keep pushing.

You might even think I’m being wicked.

But the truth is, I just don’t know how to persuade someone to do something they’ve already decided against.

If you like, do.

If you like, don’t.

It’s your choice.

And I respect that.